Not everybody is raised in an environment that supports positive confidence-building techniques; some people need an extra boost when it comes to being confident in the things they do each day. Children who don’t establish confidence in their young lives tend to mature into adults that lack self-confidence and are constantly looking for reassurance that they are on the right track. In this process, as they are reassured that they are doing well, confidence-building begins and ultimately this once less confident person becomes confident in the things they do.
As an individual, understanding that you lack the confidence you need to accomplish your goals without reassurance from others, you can alter thinking and begin your confidence-building techniques. You must first recognize the fact that you lack sufficient confidence; then you can move forward to become more confident in the things you do. Being confident in your decisions, your work, and your life is very important to succeeding in all of those situations. Confidence building can be a slow process; it all depends upon how deeply lacking of confident the individual might be.
An individual with low confidence will tend to avoid any task that seems too much for them to handle, even if they have shown in the past that they can achieve these goals. Confidence building begins by taking on tasks that the individual can easily complete. When that has been accomplished, this gives the individual a sense of pride and confidence that they can, indeed, complete a task without constant reassurance. The next step is to take on a more difficult task. Because the individual is feeling more confident from the last task, he or she will look at the task as a challenge, thus begins the process of confidence-building. When the individual completes the harder task, his or her confidence level has increased dramatically.
There are times in all our lives that we feel we have bitten off more than we can chew. We begin to stress about whether or not we will be able to complete the task we have been given. This is a normal, human feeling and sometimes can be overwhelming. Asking for help in this type of situation is another way of confidence-building because instead of running away from the problem you seek advice; that advice helps you to complete the task thus increasing your confidence.
It is important to remember that confidence can be destroyed just as easily as it can be built; you must not allow setbacks or failures to hinder confidence-building techniques; it is all part of the process. If you find yourself at this point, when the task you were trying to complete didn’t succeed, you must learn from your mistakes and not allow that to be a stumbling block. Failure is part of life; we have all failed at one point or another; it’s how you use that experience that determines the outcome of the next task you take on.
Fear of failure is a basic human emotion; confidence-building helps to eliminate that fear that tends to keep you from succeeding in life. It takes courage to overcome that fear that often holds us back; when one is confident in his or her directions life, in general, becomes more satisfying and enjoyable.
Love,
Yuliza
